Holistic Sex Work

In an earlier blog post, I mentioned the idea of holistic sex work. It's a strange idea to some. Many seem to think just seeing an escort is a sign of trouble. And yes, it can result in unhealthy patterns. There are many reasons to seek an evening with an escort, and I believe it is the intention we set, and the consciousness we hold during that time, that effects what will come out of that.

HOLISTIC:

  1. Characterized by comprehension of the parts of something as intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole.
  2. Characterized by the treatment of the whole person, taking into account mental and social factors, rather than just the physical.



For myself, holistic sex work is the acknowledgement of these many reasons, and treating each and every reason with holistic healing intent. It would take a different form for each client, or even for each visit.

It means, for me, acknowledging that there is healing found in the casual fuck. A good fuck breaks down barriers and expends an energy that reveals vulnerability, is sometimes the only way a person feels comfortable being vulnerable. But I also think that as a culture we undervalue vulnerability, or open-heartedness. There are some who say fucking is sex with no emotion connection, that only with "love-making" there is that opening to vulnerability, but I would say they haven't been fucked right.  It is a different sort of connection, yes.  It's a connection of our animal selves, a mixing of animal frenzy that seems to bypass our human emotional barriers. It's in the quiet moments of post-orgasm exhaustion that things suddenly open up.

There are some who cling to the duality that some things are sacred, and others are not.  All dualities (good & evil, light & dark, sacred & profane) boil down to the same thing, and creates an opening for dogma to be established: This is Good, but not This.  Put more of this Good stuff in your life, and less of this Bad stuff. However, what is good and bad is so very subjective. It depends on the people involved, the circumstances, the unseen karma at play. 

My Truth is that All must be Sacred. It is all a part of this Universe, and even the not so pleasant parts of it play a purpose.  Decomposition, rotting, the breaking down of shit, as unpleasant as it is, is needed to ensure there will be raw materials for new life.  Life feeds off Death, as Death feeds from Life. We only separate these energies, calling some things light and some dark, to describe their natures.  There is the sacred and the profane, or the accepted and the taboo, and these opposites create each other.  There would be no taboo without decreeing what is accepted. This is my Holistic Truth: that sometimes we must play with these seemingly opposites and unite them.  That is why many are drawn to sexually taboo fantasies, and why many seek to experiment with taboo activities. That is why I've never considered offering just massage, or limiting my services.

It's of vital importance to me to honor the union of opposites, and to facilitate that. I wish to make myself available to the energies that wish to be expressed at that moment, and to let it be what it is, rather than trying to guide it to any specific place.

Notes from the Weekend

What a fabulous weekend! 

After the week has dragged on, I was doing my best to stay positive. It has been quite a while since I set myself up an Incall spot, and it was in the middle of convention/tourist season. Somehow I always manage to forget it. One of my good friends was caught unawares too, and decided to stay outside the city. It had me a little worried, but I tucked all that away and went ahead.

It's so awesome when intuition pays off.  I saw a handful of wonderful men, and had a great time. This weekend, perhaps more than anything else, really confirmed to me that this is where my path lies. That it goes deeper than just making money for having fun–it's also acknowledging that there is a deeper value in this particular type of fun. 

I have another couple of weeks before my three day workshop intensive. I'm considering some time in the south bay, but I'll have to decide fast so I can advertise! 

FAQ Series, pt 1

What should I expect in a first visit?

Come ready to relax and enjoy yourself. I like for first meetings to be more about experiencing the energy of these two people coming together, than about a preconceived fantasy. There's nothing wrong with fantasy play, but I seek joyful spontinaity over scripts.

What sort of etiquette should I keep in mind for our first meeting?

If you have a chance to freshen up first, that is always appreciated. There will be a shower and fresh towels available for your use if you'd prefer to shower once you arrive.  There will also be a spot for you to place my donation at the beginning of our date. If you aren't sure about something, please do ask. Im happy to answer polite questions. I tend to be generous with my time, so you can fully unwind. 

An FAQ series

Whatever have I been up to? Between work and yoga, there has been some serious soul searching going on, as a contemplate applying to a program that would take my path to the next level. Last year, I wasn't ready to commit to the program, and I'm glad I waited.  I do enjoy the people at my straight job, but I feel continually discontent. Worse still I feel drained energetically and creatively. I am feeling an overwhelming urge to put all my devotion into this personal path.

I did update my ads in what felt like forever. Fresh copy and a new rotation of pics. And I am working on a series of post that will become an FAQ. It also gives me a chance to beg you for questions. If you have something you'd like to ask, feel free to email me or post in the comments. Here's a short list that I've put together so far....

What should I expect in a first visit?

What sort of etiquette should I keep in mind for our first meeting?

Do you accept gifts?

Do you accept trades?

What draws you to the sacred side of this?

What separates sacred harlotry from other sex work?